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Guest contributor Bruce Helmer is an award-winning financial advisor and co-founder of Wealth Enhancement Group, a financial consulting firm based in the Twin Cities area in Minnesota. Thousands of listeners tune in each week to his popular radio show, “Your Money.” And Bruce has just released his third book, Real Wealth: How to Make Smart Money Choices for What Matters Most to YOU.

As a parent and a financial advisor, I’ve thought quite a bit about the best way to raise financially responsible children, and I’m convinced that it has less to do with learning arithmetic and more to do with learning values. If your child has the confidence to make independent, informed decisions based on his or her values, I believe this will organically influence his or her decisions about money. In my most recent book, Real Wealth: How to make Smart Money Choices for what matters most to YOU, I go into more detail about how to provide a solid foundation for introducing more practical money-saving lessons to your children, and in the spirit of Financial Literacy Month, I’d like to share them with you here.

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1. Teach Values First

You must practice what you preach; this means talking the talk and walking the walk. If you don’t have a thoughtful financial plan that balances your values and money, then how can you expect your child to understand any financial lesson? Be sure that you not only know what your values are, but that you also effectively incorporate these into your family’s financial future. Don’t shy away from discussions about money; rather, consider carefully what you tell your children about money so that they understand from the time they are very young what money can and cannot do for them, and how you believe it should and should not be used.

2. Teach Children the Joy of Work

Whatever your children do, be it work, school or play, encourage them to do it wholeheartedly. Let them know—and let them experience—the wonderful, rewarding feeling of devotedly working on a project and seeing it through to completion. When the time comes, it is very positive for kids to get summer or after-school jobs. Yes, they do have their whole lives to work, but they have such a great sense of accomplishment when they earn their first money. They also learn to interact in a workplace with coworkers and the boss in a way that is different from how they interact with you.

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3. Let Your Children Manage Money

Kids learn about personal finance by personal experience. If your children receive money—whether by work, gift or allowance—allow them to spend it or save it as they see fit. They will learn that immediate gratification is only so satisfying. It’s important to reinforce the value and consequences of both spending and saving decisions, but it’s probably wisest to do it as a statement of fact. Don’t make children feel stupid for buying something…rather, make sure that they understand they made a choice—and now they have to live with it. This is the best way to encourage children to learn the value of a dollar.

It’s crucially important to inculcate these experiences from an early age, but if your kids are in their teens, have no fear – you can still exhibit good financial behavior and encourage them to make independent decisions with their money.

For more information on Bruce Helmer or to purchase your copy of Real Wealth, visit

 What are your strategies to raise money smart kids? What did your parents do to teach you about money?

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  1. My wife nd I took our kids to work before it was fashionable. They saw firsthand what it was like to work and be successful. They also worked in my businesses too. They are now successful adults and told me that it was what we did versus what we said that helped them become successful.


    April 1, 2013

    • @Krantc-Our daughter has seen us working since she was a little girl. Growing up, our Sunday’s were spent going with my dad on his business related activities. Modeling behavior is much more instructive than words.


      April 2, 2013

  2. Good post! Neither my wife or I were taught much about money by our parents and are working to not do the same with our children. We involve them in appropriate discussions, the oldest is five, and communicate why we make certain decisions as ill use this as a foundation to teach them more as they get older.

    John S @ Frugal Rules

    April 2, 2013

  3. Love it and completely agree. We find that encouraging our kids to save for spending money for holidays also makes them much more mindful of their purchases on holiday – completely reduces the nag factor!

    Elise Ellabban

    April 2, 2013

  4. @John, Great idea to start early, then the smart money habits become automatic.
    @Elise-Anything that can reduce the “nag” factor and give kids ownership and responsibility is important.


    April 3, 2013

  5. Those of you who are interested in the psychology of raising financially responsible kids might want to see my recent series of columns on this topic. I’m a psychologist who has worked with lots of parents struggling with this issue!

    Jeremy Shapiro

    April 5, 2013

  6. There are no perfect parents but with these, we can be a model to them and teach them the value of savings. When they grow older, they will practice it and will soon have

    KC @ genxfinance

    April 11, 2013


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