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By: Crystal @ Budgeting in the Fun Stuff

Crystal @ Budgeting in the Fun Stuff — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 18:06:13 +0000

I think it was smart. It was a win-win for both of you and it made it obvious that the two women were being a bit loud.

By: Barb

Barb — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 17:34:22 +0000

@Aspiring-I like the way you think (is it just because you think like I do?) Thank you for your input.
@Little House-Wow, I couldn’t have said it better! Thank you, Barb

By: Little House

Little House — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 15:23:26 +0000

I would have done the same thing. The point is you were trying to be helpful; you wanted to get rid of your keyboard, and they needed one. As for being nosy, they were the ones sharing their conversation with the entire coffee shop by talking loudly. If for a moment they thought you were being nosy, they quickly got over it when you had something they needed or wanted.

As for your friend Simon, he needs to take some pointers from you!

By: Aspiring Millionaire

Aspiring Millionaire — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 09:30:12 +0000

I would have done what you did and appreciate it when people do it to me.

I knwo I talk loudly, and if I am talking in a public place like a coffee shop, I know people will naturally hear my conversation. It’s not their fault I am a natural loud talker and will hear things, so I don’t consider it eavesdropping if someone hears me.

Love yoru site btw.

By: Barb

Barb — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 11:50:30 +0000

@Kevin, Thanks for adding to the conversation, and of course not calling me inappropriate . I don’t think there’s much hope for my neighbor, unfortunately. Best, Barb

By: Kevin@InvestItWisely

Kevin@InvestItWisely — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 01:36:57 +0000

On the one hand, you don’t want to seem as eavesdropping, but if they were making their conversation so apparent to all, then there’s not much you could have done about that

I think what you did was fine, and it was a form of assertiveness that would have helped both both of you out, as you said. Learning to stand up to salesmen is another issue altogether, and one should keep in mind that those people are not your friends, and it’s ok to disappoint them (without necessarily being rude about it).

By: Barb

Barb — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 22:32:28 +0000

@Shawn, Of course, your net worth definitely does not equal your self worth, but, I think my neighbor has to give up worrying about what the “sales clerk” thinks of him.
@DIY- I like your style, I don’t mind when strangers engage to offer helpful suggestions (in moderation). I agree that Simon needs counseling, but this is one area where I’m going to MYOB!
@Mysti- You are correct, no call from mom #1!
To all—thanks for continuing the discussion-I feel vindicated now that you are on my “assertive” side.

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